After recently watching the documentary "Diary Of A Tired Black Man", a plethora of misconceptions, stereotypes and generalizations were left in the memory as the credits rolled.
"Diary Of A Tired Black Man" Trailer
Black men it seemed in the documentary, were hell bent on lumping all black
women in one category. Each stereotype was like a slap in the face. The
words: Angry, Mean, Loud, Materialistic, Argumentative, Ghetto,
Unforgiving, etc.. were not a pretty projection of black women. As a
matter of fact, they seemed to me to be just excuses.
Excuses that "some" black men use to demean, tear down and degrade black women for their own selfish reasons.
With the imprint of the documentary in my mind and the countless debates,
conversations, articles, studies, statistics, and yes..youtube videos
on the subject of Why were so many intelligent black women unmarried?
Just with the question, it pits black men and women against one another
and the argument begins.. Black women say black men are in jail,
unemployed, on the down low or with white women. Black men say black
women are mean,argumentative, difficult to deal with, stuck up, materialistic.. I mean their list went on and on...
I even recently had a conversation with an ex-boyfriend...
when I asked him about the documentary.. he stated to me that he had
seen it and could agree with some of the men. He even commented that I
in his opinion, had an "attitude" issue, could be mean at times,
argumentative and was too "stubborn"... I paused for a few seconds
on the phone and wondered.. Well why in the hell were we together for
almost 2 years if you felt that way?? I asked him the question.. his
response was "because I loved you and you were too stubborn to realize
it." he went on to say "well in the beginning I thought your attitude
was cute..."
I was thinking.. Oh really?? I suppose our
breakup had nothing to do with the fact that you were selfish,
arrogant, a cheater and wanted your cake and eat it too??!
At that point I realized I was sooo very
happy he was now married to someone else and we had just remained
friends..." Thankfully I had made a wise decision in ending that relationship.
However the conversation with him made me realize that
communication was key in a relationship. Without it, you just have
arguments, headaches and a realization that your relationship or in my case with this ex, should have ended a good 6 months earlier than it did. .
So... this "Chocolate Chick Special Edition" entry will delve into the thoughts of
why some folks feel Black men tend to date and/or marry white women or
women of another race, rather than deal with black women. Consequently
leaving black women single in record numbers. Do some black men suffer
from self hate? Are they scared of a strong minded black woman? Or
could it simply be they fell in love with someone who just happened to
be of another race? It seems, folks have a wide variety of opinions on the
subject.
Before beginning the interesting foray into the subject.. My thoughts are that there are still good, intelligent, strong and sexy black men available.. our lists just have to be a bit more realistic.
Are Black Women Angry?
Why Are So Many Black Women Single?
A Nightline Special
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Should Black Women Look To Dating Outside Their Race Since Black Men Do?
Black Women/White Men Couples In The Media...
Believe it or not... Black love still exists. So Don't give up sistas!
In closing, the realization is that everyone has their own opinion on the subject, based on their experiences. One thing is clear... black love still exists despite what the media wants you to believe.
Interracial dating is a wonderful thing. The fact that interracial couples are able to deal with their family's disapproval, negative comments and the public backlash they receive and yet are able to maintain a loving relationship, is a sign that they are even that much more committed to one another and therefore truly are in love.
However, there is a point when interracial dating is "wrong" on so many levels. Not wrong to be in the relationship, but "some" men are wrong for putting black women down as a means to give an excuse for interracial dating. Don't degrade black women, just do what you want to do and leave us out of it.
I truly don't have an issue with black men who choose to ONLY date white women or women of another race. That's their right. The issue comes in when black men degrade black women to justify their dating choices. It's nothing but self hatred on their part and that's pathetically sad.
But... with those types of negroes... they can have them!!
Examples of these type of men:
Oh.. not to leave them out.. there are some black men in entertainment with some f'd up views as well..Again you can have your preferences, however you don't degrade black women to justify it!!:
SINGER NE-YO
A RESPONSE TO NE-YO'S COMMENT
WACK AZZ RAPPER YUNG BERG
HE THEN TRIES TO APOLOGIZE
**The next installment of the Chocolate Chick Special Edition Post will be: "Dark Skin v/s Light Skin In The Black Community"... Coming Soon!!!
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